MY JOB AS A COACH IS TO WORK MYSELF OUT OF THE JOB

May 25, 2026•3 min read

My job is to work myself out of the job, and while I initially take the financial hit of losing a client, the reasons why the work stops are always exhilarating: my clients are ready to fly.

And fly they do.

In the past two weeks, I have received messages from three former clients, all of them detailing new adventures, new horizons, excitement about the future, and gratitude for our work together.

To be clear, they did (and continue to do) all the work. I am a companion on the journey for a season and a reason.

The first one sent me a screenshot. She searched her business category on Google Maps, and there she was, already among the established names in her area. Her business, on the map, findable and real.

The second one shared three wins in a single message: she bought the house, had the baby, and got the job. Each of these was a thread she had been working to align during our time together. They arrived at the same time.

The third one sent me a list of wins so long I could dedicate the rest of this post to them. The detail that stopped me, though, was this: when we met, she was paying for a car she was not using. Fear kept her from it.

In her update, she described going to new, remote places, navigating unfamiliar roads, and renting a car to drive the five hours from the airport to her family's home. That is no a small thing for a woman who just a year ago had let fear keep her from that wheel and many other adventures that are now within reach.

I love the synchronicity of receiving all three messages within days of one another. I love what they confirm.

In every case, these women faced their fears, took deep breaths, and jumped into the work. In every case, they did it by tapping into who they already were. The power, courage, and drive were always theirs.

My job was to point it out. To place their goals and their contradictions side by side and ask them to look at both at the same time. To encourage one small step, and then another. And in some cases, to lovingly push them off the cliff.

That is the job. The whole job. To make myself unnecessary.

These messages arrived at a crucial moment in my own work. Lately, I have been phasing out my individual clients as I move into new and exciting territories of my own. The timing is meaningful.

When a client is ready to fly, the relationship completes itself on both ends.

They receive their freedom. I receive mine.

What was built in the room travels with the person who built it and endures long after the coaching relationship ends.

I confess I got teary-eyed as I read the messages these three former clients wrote over the last two weeks, describing lives that seemed out of reach when we first met.

That is the reason I do this work, and I cannot wait to hear where they are in five years.

Neidy Lozada, MATP, CTTC, CSIC

Neidy Lozada is a transformational strategist and spiritual integration coach specializing in self-authorship, life transition, readiness for change, and aligned action for experienced women ready to shape their lives with greater clarity, intention, and self-direction. She brings over twenty years of experience in transpersonal psychology, coaching, and organizational leadership to her work with women who have spent decades excelling inside someone else's structure and are now building their own. Neidy founded Soulful Sojourners and developed structured frameworks for women whose expertise has outgrown the roles that once contained it. Her work consistently returns to legacy — the body of work a woman builds when her decisions finally align with the full scope of her vision. She founded Women Nexus™, a global community where experienced women acquire the structural knowledge and strategic clarity required to build a business after a long and distinguished career.

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